If you’re single, Valentine’s Day can be a chore, especially since you’ll constantly be bombarded with cliché sales tactics, accompanied with a colour scheme you won’t be able to avoid in the weeks leading up to the 14th. But there are a few ways you can cope: Forget about the whole thing and go about your routine as if it were any regular day; wallow in self-pity because you don’t have anyone to be sickeningly cute with; or make the most of your singlehood. There’s really no shortage of things to do if you’re going with the third option. Here are some ideas of how to spend Valentine’s Day when you’re single.
1. Organise a party with all your single friends
Gather all your single ladies (or bros) and have a night to remember. Bake some chocolatey sweet treats or play some laughter-inducing games aided by a healthy amount of liquid courage. And if you really want to go all out, include a secret Santa-like Valentine’s exchange, taking extra care to personalise their gifts, because we all love receiving our favourite things.
2. Catch up on your favourite TV show
Our work commitments can overwhelm us, taking away what little we have of our precious leisure time. So if you’re looking to spend V Day free of socialisation (the classic Netflix and chill, if you wish), you’re free to do just that. Add in some greasy delivery and while away the day without any unnecessary distractions. Stay away from social media for the next two days too, if you don’t want to wallow in how you spent the day (or if you’re triggered by your friends’ lovey-dovey posts).
3. Get a massage
If you just feel like spoiling yourself, why not indulge in a full spa and massage treatment? Return to work or school rejuvenated while the rest of your friends lament about how big a hole they burnt in their pockets for love, on arguably the second most expensive holiday, only after Christmas.
4. Enjoy a good book
While the couples around you partake in yet another love fest (as if their level of PDA depends on the day), you can opt to settle in a quiet corner where you know no one will disturb you, and delve into a book you haven’t had the time to read or re-read your favourite novel. Better yet, you can even enjoy your quiet time with a cup of warm herbal tea from Nilufer Tea. The fragrance of flowers and herbs will make you (almost) forget it's Valentine's Day. After all, self-love is the most important love of all.
5. Hit the gym
Get in a good workout while your friends are out stuffing their faces with too much chocolate for one day. It’ll make you feel better about spending the day alone, since those mood-enhancing endorphins are sure to put you in a euphoric state.
6. Send love someone else’s way
There are numerous ways to give back to society and this may just be the perfect day to do it. Not everyone has loved ones to care for them, so taking just a few hours out of your day may go a long way for someone who constantly spends it alone.
But if you’re the sort who’s not into grand gestures, a simple one like writing a thank you card to the barista who knows your order by heart, or even a friend who’s been there for you through thick and thin, may just put a spring in their step this Valentine’s Day.
Whatever you decide to do, you shouldn’t have to feel guilty about taking some time out for yourself. Remember, it’s just another day in the calendar year.
Written by: Anna Fernandez